Children’s Screen Time Action Network has some great ideas for summer – like saying YES to kids and helping them learn resourcefulness. Check out their article below:
For most of us, school is out already and we’re in those transition weeks that can produce anxiety, both for us and the kids. Ok. So I see that parents are sick of hearing that they have to set screen limits. Like Advisory Board member Dr. Meghan Owenz says, “If you offer more fruits and vegetables, it edges out room for the donut.” Hence, my message this week is less about screen limits and more about the opportunities that a little extra time can bring to families.
Here are four ideas that go beyond summer tip lists:
Say ‘yes’ a lot! It feels so good to say
‘yes.’ A simple thing… but so contrary to the many, many times we have to say
‘no’ to our kids. In our house, we had a Mom-says-yes day and a kids-say-yes
day every summer. (Of course dads can do it, too!) I suggest doing the parent
day first. There was a low-price limit on what they could ask – have a friend
over, have dessert first, stay in our pajamas all day, go to McDonald’s (shhhh
– don’t tell anyone at CCFC!) But, it brought so much joy. And the kids-say-yes
day got a lot of chores done!
What I learned: I can do anything for one day.
When kids are allowed to choose, they can make good choices and know their
Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses. They’re
exhausted! Discussion about trips and camps can be downright cutthroat. While
we did our share of both, the best excursions were local hikes, museums, and
lakes with peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. As in life, buying an expensive
summer doesn’t guarantee happy memories. You’re still juggling work, maybe
adjusting your hours or working at home more, maybe driving your older kids to
summer jobs. Added pressure to spend more and run more will only spread anxiety
to the kids. What we think they want and what they really need—quality time
with family and friends—are two different things.
learned: A break from the stress of school (especially for high schoolers)
is best when there isn’t added pressure to make the summer perfect.
Trust that kids can and will entertain themselves. As long
as they are safe and fed, kids will find something to do – if we let them.
Boredom helps kids make their own meaning of life. Of my kids, Evan was the
best at coming up with ideas and playing by himself. But, the others came
around to it also, if I was willing to gently remind them, “Mommy is working
learned: I can put up with a little whining to build resourceful kids. The
whining goes away after they know you mean business. And when everyone’s tired,
you can give in to the temptation to have a little screen time now and then –
once you’ve checked that it’s ad-free!
4) Set expectations. Those of you who have been with me for a while know this is my go-to parenting advice. The more you can talk about the new routine ahead, let them draw pictures of it, or have a visual calendar (not just on your phone), the better their behavior. Some surprises and flexibility are important as well. But, kids thrive on a little routine, even in the summer months.
What I learned: Sometimes I had to repeat myself, but as long as we talked about it ahead of time, the summer months went easily – and often, too quickly.
If you have a loved one struggling with their personal life please contact Tamara Ancona, MA, LPC at (678) 297-0708 for an evaluation, and to discuss the best treatment options available.